I Struggle With Addiction. Does That Mean I Don’t Care?
When you are in the process of developing a substance or event addiction, an addictive personality is formed. It is as though there are two people within you, your true self and the person acting in addiction. When you are in control you do care. The more the addictive personality strengthens the more you focus […]
Why Do I Need Help to Overcome an Addiction?
I have counseled many people struggling to overcome an addiction and a common question is: Why do I need help to overcome a substance or an event addiction? We all have our own shortcomings and weaknesses where we have varying degrees of blindness. We need others to turn our eyes to things unseen and bring […]
Why Won’t Everyone Just Leave Me Alone?
I have counseled thousands of people and one of the questions I am most frequently asked is: “Why won’t everyone just leave me alone and let me handle this myself?” When your family and friends watch you make choices and behaviors, they are not looking through the filter of distorted thinking, which is a fruit […]
Why Do I Use Poor Behaviors to Change My Mood or Protect Myself?
I have counseled thousands of people and one question I am frequently asked is: “Why do I use poor behaviors to change my mood or protect myself?” You developed specific coping skills through many avenues. Life experiences have produced messages, core beliefs and thought patterns that drive what you feel, speak, and the behaviors that […]